The Keyholder's Handbook + Checklist Pack
PDF · 30 pp + audio
You don't have to be dominant to hold the key. Hold it with confidence, your way.
Start here if you're the one holding the key, whether it's your first time or you agreed rather than asked. It works for any length of lock-up. For Locktober, add The Keyholder's Locktober Companion; once you've finished a full cycle, move on to Long-Term Keyholding: 90 Days and Beyond.
What's inside
- 30-page PDF
- 5 templates and a bonus checklist pack
- Companion audio (10 min)
Look inside
Perhaps your partner brought this to you. Perhaps you're curious but unsure. The Keyholder's Handbook starts from a simple premise: you don't have to be dominant, and you don't have to enjoy every part of this. It works at whatever intensity actually suits you.
Who it's for: first-time keyholders, partners who agreed rather than asked, and anyone holding a key from a distance. Experienced keyholders will find the templates and checklists just as useful.
What it helps with: separating real responsibilities from assumed ones, setting rules that are specific and fair, keeping check-ins light, and handling pestering with one calm, reusable reply. It also gives you permission to keep your own load small, and covers infractions, rewards, long-distance arrangements, what to do when things go wrong, and release and aftercare.
Built for consenting adults. Agree a safeword or pause phrase before you begin, and release for any health concern is always allowed, whatever the plan says.
18+ only.
